It seems like only yesterday that everyone looked forward to retirement as the "golden years," a time of relaxing, playing golf, some travel and visiting grandkids. I remember leading an early retirement workshop at IBM 15 or so years ago when a 55 years old man, eagerly accepting the early retirement option, said he planned to sail around the world in his boat with his wife. When I asked him what he would do after that, he hadn't even thought of the future. The thought of freedom to pursue a dream was so appealing that life beyond was not even considered.
There has been a shift now. The longevity revolution, where many people are living active lives 20-30 years and more beyond retirement age is part of the reason. Boredom in Paradise! Life without structure, community, and a deep soul nurturing sense of purpose is not satisfying for most of us. Added to this, the economic downturn has caused many who were considering retiring at 65 or earlier to realize that they have to work to make ends meet.
In my career coaching practice, I hear many clients in later midlife and beyond questioning their future. Those who are still working often feel stymied and frustrated in their work. The exciting challenges have been met and they long to express more of themselves. Those who have retired or are unemployed realize that endless days of freedom and time is often not enough. Their careers provided a framework for their lives. When this is ripped away, they feel unsettled and disconnected.
If midlife is a time of self- reflection, this time of later and beyond midlife is even more so. It is time to ask the big questions: Who am I really? What is the unlived part of me? What is my legacy to the world? How can I serve and be connected to a larger purpose. As Carl Jung once said: " We cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life's morning-for what was great in the morning will be little at evening, and what in morning was true will at evening become a lie"
Jane Fonda, on a book tour for her new book "Prime Time" recently spoke in Berkeley about her life and observations at age 73. She left Ted Turner because with him life was great but "horizontal". She had the need to go deeper and examine the earlier stages of her life to fully live what she calls her "third stage". Fonda looks at the years beyond 60 not as a decline but as an "ascending staircase." She didn't mention God but spiritual as well as personal growth was strongly implied.
Marc Freedman in his newly published book "The Big Shift: Navigating the New Stage Beyond Midlife" really nails it. He calls for a new map of life and names the years between middle age and being elderly the "encore stage". We are beyond middle age and not yet old. We have energy, creativity, experience, time, and a desire to serve, to do something meaningful and to leave our legacy.
In this book and his previous one called "Encore: Finding Work That Matters in the Second Half of Life" Freedman interviews scores of individuals leaving corporate and professional jobs and transitioning to work in the nonprofit, educational, and public service areas. This subject has long fascinated me and as I recently looked through my files I see that I have collected numerous ideas and articles related to it since 2003. Thank you Marc for naming it.
There has been some talk in the media recently of older people being a burden on society. This certainly doesn't have to be so. The need to connect, to be part of a community making a difference in the world, to leave a meaningful legacy calls us and is part of our human journey. It is time for more of us to do the inner work and then find our own individual path and direction for this important next stage of our lives.
Please join me Sunday September 18th at the New York Open Center in New York City where I will be leading my workshop "Encore Careers: Creativity, Work and Meaning in the Wisdom Years." I promise it will be a fulfilling and valuable experience. And who knows what we will be beginning here? Perhaps a future revolution!
Allie Roth is a career and life coach with 30 years of experience in Fortune 500 companies and in private practice helping people find more prosperity, fulfillment and meaning in their work and their lives. Featured in articles in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, the Denver Post and The Los Angeles Times, Allie integrates Jungian psychology, traditional career counseling, and Eastern and Western spiritual traditions with concrete strategies for today's job market. Her newest work focuses on careers for those over 55. http://www.allieroth.com/
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